Work, Life, and Balance

Each work environment is different; some are very formal while others are casual.  And the longer you work at the same location the more comfortable you are going to get with the people you are working with.  However, you should never lose perspective that your job is exactly that.  It is your job.  Socializing and talking with others is expected to a point – but you should remember there should be limitations as to what you say and do.  Keep in mind that personal story you share with a coworker may not be confidential, and could be spread to others.  Eventually this could lead to people hearing a conversation they shouldn’t or the conversation could be distorted.  Here are some basics that should be left to after office hour conversations – or even not be brought in at all.

Dating
Office dating is no longer the social faux pas it used to be, but in some places (and situations) it can cost you your job.  Some businesses still have a strict no office dating policy, while others allow it.  However, before you start dating someone at work there are a few questions you should ask yourself.  First, is it really the best idea?  You may be getting along now, but how is it going to be if you have an argument?  Is the tension going to be brought in the office?  Chances are this is going to be the case.  Second, how will you feel if the relationship ends?  Will you be able to continue working with this person?  In the end if you date someone in the office, in addition to sacrificing a relationship you will also be sacrificing your job if you are unable to work together.

Religion
In general conversations about religion should be left out of the work place because it is a heated topic.  If someone takes your opinion personally, it can lead to serious disagreements or even action by Human Resources.

Politics
Another conversation that should be left out of the office.  It is a heated topic – especially if you have different points of view.

Personal Details
The story about your relationships, status, or partying over the days off can come back to haunt you.  And they can reflect on how others see you – including the boss.  It is okay to share some of your personal details like how you saw a great movie, exhibit at the museum, created artwork, etc., but leave out the details of excessive drinking or other graphic stories.  Always remember to “edit” your stories; you never know who might hear them even if they are told in confidence.

Other People
Never, ever talk about other people unless it is about an issue you are having with a coworker with your boss.  What you say about someone else will eventually get back to them – whether you want it too or not.  This leads to hurt feelings and tension in the workplace.  Also, it can cause people to “choose sides” based on how they see the issue and the people involved resulting in more tension and can even cost you your job.

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